Many people must have experienced this feeling: even in a very lively environment, they always feel out of place and extremely lonely. The specific reason for this is often unclear, so we should start by looking within ourselves for the cause.
Why do we feel increasingly lonely? There are two main reasons:
1. Closing off your inner world
Sometimes, when everyone is praising and agreeing, some are sincere, while others are just pretending, but they all appear very genuine. However, you feel that others are not on the same wavelength as you. Although you may also praise the situation verbally, deep down, you feel it’s just lip service. If this is the case, then you are deliberately deceiving yourself. If you continue to do this for a long time, you will eventually get used to this self-deception and carry it on, embedding it deeply into your subconscious. Over time, you will continuously seal off your inner world, never letting it see the light of day. If you do this, you will not only lose your emotions and feelings, but you will also live in a self-created state of sorrow and grief, sacrificing your relationships with others and making yourself feel increasingly lonely.
2. Frequent negative emotions
In our daily lives, we often encounter people who are easily overwhelmed by negative emotions. When faced with a problem, instead of thinking about how to solve it, they first calculate step by step what the worst possible outcome could be. If they know the worst-case scenario, they lose the motivation to move forward. This kind of emotion extends into daily life and interpersonal relationships. Before even integrating into a group, they start thinking about what they should do if they are rejected, or if others are just putting on a facade. Over time, this feeling of loneliness will become increasingly intense and difficult to shake off. If you want to break free from this emotion, you need to bravely take the first step, start communicating with others, and be more courageous. Don’t always take your emotions too seriously; instead, actively experience and understand the emotions of the outside world.
Of course, occasional loneliness is not entirely a bad thing. When we get used to being alone, we can also discover the benefits and joys that solitude brings. After being alone, we can effectively complete our tasks quickly, easily sort out our thoughts without being easily disturbed, and effectively discern the truth and quality of the information we receive, seriously considering which direction our thinking should take.
