In life, it's common to hear friends say they feel insecure, always doubting whether they’re doing enough, and no matter how much they achieve, they still feel inadequate. They prefer staying at home during holidays rather than going out. Additionally, people who exhibit the following behaviors are often those who lack a sense of security.
People who feel insecure usually sleep hugging something or curled up in a ball. They tend to be nostalgic in life, often feeling an inexplicable loneliness. They like to sleep with the lights on, fearing the dark, and when alone, they experience an inexplicable fear. They are quiet around unfamiliar people, prefer staying in corners or by windows, and enjoy listening to music, especially sad songs.
So, why do people feel insecure?
1. Personal upbringing leading to insecurity
Everyone’s upbringing is different. Some may develop insecurities due to past traumas or a lack of parental affection during childhood. Such experiences often leave them feeling somewhat unconfident, always thinking they’re not important or that nothing they do is good enough. If parents are overly critical, children may become overly sensitive to others' judgments, leading to self-doubt and insecurity.
2. Recent failures or rejections causing insecurity
Life events significantly impact one’s mental state. Experiencing failure or rejection can greatly affect a person's emotions and self-perception. When rejected, one’s confidence takes a big hit, leading to negative views of oneself and others. If the person already has low self-esteem, such events can be even more damaging, potentially leading to feelings of inferiority.
3. Social anxiety inducing insecurity
Many people experience this situation: feeling their heart race, blushing, or becoming nervous and unconfident in social settings like gatherings, dates, or public speaking. Such individuals are overly concerned with others' opinions and focus on how to make a good impression. This is due to a lack of security, making them adept at masking their shortcomings.
4. Perfectionism leading to insecurity
Striving for the best grades, the ideal job, the perfect body, and the ideal partner—these are traits of perfectionists. Because they pursue perfection so intensely, they feel particularly frustrated and self-critical when faced with imperfections.
