So you’re 35 and still single—big deal. Contrary to what society (or your nosy aunt) might tell you, there’s no expiration date on love or happiness. Marriage isn’t a race, and hitting your mid-thirties without a ring on your finger doesn’t mean you’ve lost. In fact, there are plenty of reasons why being single at this stage of life is actually an advantage. Let’s break down why you should ditch the panic and embrace the freedom.
You’ve Got Time to Figure Out What You Really Want
By 35, you’ve likely had a few relationships under your belt—some great, some not so much. That means you’ve got a clearer picture of what you actually need in a partner versus what you thought you wanted in your 20s. No more settling for someone just because you’re afraid of being alone. You’ve got the wisdom to recognize red flags and the confidence to walk away from situations that don’t serve you.
Your Career and Finances Are (Probably) More Stable
Let’s be real—dating in your 20s often meant splitting cheap takeout and hoping your paycheck lasted until rent was due. Now? You’ve got a career, savings, and maybe even a 401(k). That stability means you can focus on building a relationship for the right reasons, not because you need someone to help cover bills. Plus, financial independence is sexy—own it.
You’re Not Rushing Into Anything
Marriage isn’t a checkbox on a life to-do list. When you do decide to settle down, it’ll be because you genuinely want to—not because you’re afraid of missing some arbitrary deadline. Rushing into marriage out of fear or societal pressure is a recipe for disaster. Taking your time means you’re more likely to find a partnership that actually lasts.
You’re Living Life on Your Terms
Right now, you get to make decisions based solely on what you want. Want to move across the country for a job? Go for it. Feel like spending a weekend binge-watching Netflix in your pajamas? No one’s judging. This is your time to explore, grow, and enjoy the freedom that comes with being unattached.
The Dating Pool Isn’t as Shallow as You Think
Newsflash: People get divorced. People realize they married the wrong person. People decide later in life that they’re ready for commitment. The idea that “all the good ones are taken” by 35 is a myth. There are plenty of amazing, emotionally mature singles out there who, just like you, are looking for something real—not just a rushed wedding.
You’re Building a Life You Love
Being single doesn’t mean your life is on pause. You’re traveling, advancing in your career, deepening friendships, and maybe even adopting a pet (or three). When the right person comes along, they’ll be joining a life that’s already full—not filling a void. And that’s the kind of relationship worth waiting for.
The Bottom Line
Marriage is a big deal, but it’s not the only big deal. Your worth isn’t tied to your relationship status, and love doesn’t come with a deadline. So take a deep breath, enjoy where you are right now, and trust that when the time is right, you’ll know. Until then? Live it up—you’ve earned it.
