When it comes to lesbian sex, variety and creativity are key—but some positions just hit different. We asked 13 queer women to spill the tea on their absolute favorite ways to get down, and let’s just say, the answers were anything but boring. From classic moves with a twist to next-level intimacy hacks, these picks prove that lesbian sex is as diverse as the women who love it.
The Classic: Scissoring (But Make It Better)
Yeah, yeah, we’ve all heard of scissoring—but before you dismiss it as overhyped, hear these women out. "People act like scissoring is some porn myth, but when you angle your hips just right and add a vibrator? Game. Changer," says Maya, 28. The trick? Pillows under the hips for support, plenty of lube, and slow grinding instead of frantic thrusting. "It’s less about acrobatics and more about finding that sweet spot where both of you can control the pressure," adds Jess, 31. Bonus points if one partner wears a strap-on for double stimulation.
The Power Move: Face-Sitting with a Twist
If you think face-sitting is just about one-sided pleasure, think again. "I love when my girlfriend rides my face but leans back so I can finger her at the same time," says Taylor, 25. "It’s this full-circle moment where we’re both totally lost in each other." Pro tip: Use a liberator wedge or stack pillows to keep the receiving partner’s neck comfy. And communication is key—adjust angles or pressure based on real-time feedback. "Sometimes she’ll tap my thigh if she needs a breath, and that’s hot too—consent is sexy as hell," laughs Riley, 29.
The Lazy-Girl Favorite: Side-by-Side Spooning
Perfect for lazy mornings or when you’re too tired for acrobatics, spooning sex is the MVP of low-effort, high-reward positions. "We’ll tangle our legs together so our clits are aligned, then rock slowly while making out," says Carmen, 30. "It’s intimate AF and feels like we’re melting into each other." Add a bullet vibe between you or let one partner guide the rhythm while the other focuses on kissing/neck biting. "Plus, you can fall asleep right after without untangling," jokes Sam, 27.
The Strap-On Star: Cowgirl, Queer Edition
Reverse cowgirl gets a queer upgrade when straps enter the chat. "I love watching my girlfriend ride me—the way she arches her back and controls the pace drives me wild," says Aisha, 32. For the receiver, it’s all about leverage: "I brace my hands on her thighs or the headboard to go deeper," notes Devon, 26. And don’t skip foreplay! "We’ll do mutual masturbation first so she’s fully warmed up before penetration," adds Aisha. Extra credit if the wearer uses a double-ended dildo for shared sensation.
The Underrated Gem: The X-Factor
One partner lies flat while the other straddles perpendicularly, forming an X. "It’s like scissoring’s edgy cousin," says Priya, 28. "I can grind against her thigh while fingering her, and the eye contact is intense." Great for clit stimulation and easy access to breasts or toys. "We’ll sometimes sync up with a curved vibrator—one end inside me, the other on her," explains Zoe, 30. Downside? Requires some flexibility, so stretch first (or laugh through the awkwardness).
The Sensory Overload: 69 with a Vibe
Old-school 69 gets a modern upgrade when you introduce toys. "We’ll use a suction-cup vibrator on the headboard so it’s hands-free for both of us," says Kim, 29. "It’s like a feedback loop of pleasure—the more I moan, the harder she goes, and vice versa." Alternate between slow licks and focused pressure to avoid sensory overload. "And if someone needs a break? Switch to taking turns—no shame in tapping out," advises Nat, 33.
The Deep-Connection Pick: Missionary, Reimagined
Forget heteronormative assumptions—missionary between two women is next-level intimate. "She’ll hold my wrists down while grinding against me, and the mix of dominance and tenderness wrecks me every time," says Lauren, 31. Add a pillow under the hips to hit the G-spot if using fingers or a strap. "We’ll often start like this, then flip so we both get to feel that full-body closeness," shares Ellie, 27. Pro move: Sync your breathing to build intensity.
The Kinky Crowd-Pleaser: Lap Dance Turned Sex
Why keep lap dances just for foreplay? "I’ll start by teasing her fully clothed, then slowly strip while straddling her thighs," says Jax, 30. "By the time I’m naked, she’s so worked up that even the lightest touch drives her crazy." Transition into grinding or strap-on play without breaking the vibe. "The power shift is electric—one minute she’s in control, the next I’m pinning her down," grins Jax. Works best with a sturdy chair or couch arm for support.
The Tantric Experience: Yab-Yum Inspired
Borrowed from tantra, this seated position is all about slow-burn connection. "We’ll sit cross-legged, chest to chest, and rock together while making out for ages," says Lena, 34. "It’s less about orgasm and more about feeling every inch of each other." Ideal for edging or post-orgasm cuddles. "Sometimes we’ll just stay like that, still inside each other, until our heartbeats sync up," she adds. Light candles or play ambient music to set the mood.
The Adventurous Pick: Edge of the Bed
One partner lies on their back at the edge of the bed, legs over the other’s shoulders. "I love the vulnerability of it—she’s totally open to me, and I can use my mouth, hands, or toys however I want," says Parker, 28. For added thrill, try a spreader bar or silk ties. "The first time we did this, she came so hard she kicked the headboard," laughs Parker. Safety note: Put a pillow under the hips to avoid sliding off mid-session.
The Mutual Climax Hack: The Butterfly
One partner lies on their back, legs bent, while the other kneels between them. "I can finger her while she uses a wand on both of us," says Morgan, 29. "When we time it right, we’ll finish together, and holy shit—that’s the good stuff." Adjust leg positions to change the angle—feet on shoulders for deeper penetration, or knees together for tighter clit contact. "Pro tip: Have a towel ready. Things get messy in the best way," Morgan adds.
The Long-Distance Lifesaver: Phone Sex Upgrade
For couples doing the long-distance thing, tech can bridge the gap. "We’ll sync up vibrators via an app while video calling," says Alex, 26. "I’ll describe exactly what I’d be doing if we were together, and hearing her react in real time is chef’s kiss." Use voice notes for after-hours teasing or mutual masturbation sessions. "It keeps the spark alive until we can try these IRL again," Alex smiles.
From lazy spooning to edge-of-the-bed intensity, these 13 positions prove lesbian sex is anything but one-note. The common thread? Creativity, communication, and a willingness to laugh when things get awkward (because they will). As Zoe puts it, "The best sex happens when you’re both just into each other—positions are just the fun roadmap." Now go forth and get inspired.
